Very very quickly! I AM going OUT tonight!!!! Yay!!! Can’t wait… Back to the blog hehe. Quick one tonight and I will write tomorrow! I’ve been having lots of issues with J! Kicking and punching me! I’ve been on top of the discipline straight away everytime and he never had these outbursts before, so the only thing I can think of I’d golden syrup or maple syrup! I’m going to try a week without them and see how we go! Boys are out I have to go! Tomorrow! I promise…
So I’m sitting in the car waiting for the boys to finish their Tai Kwon Do, when I realized I haven’t uploaded last weeks stuff I’d written! I will do now and then hopefully catch up ASAP!
I was so happy today! I thought yay we have finally hit baseline!! The kids behavior has been wonderful, every one is noticing the difference in the way they talk, treat each other and their general behavior! It has been lovely, and I’m sooo very proud of them!! Until… Tonight!! J lost the plot totally!! He was screaming at me,I put him in time out, and he started kicking me and then started punching me really hard. At first I tried to ignore it, don’t give it any attention and there won’t be a pay off for him. But then he got harder and it really hurt, so I turned around and I took him calmly by the hands, went down to his level and told him sternly that it is not appropriate to hit me or anyone ever! He got even worse so I took him out of time out and gently lead him to his room, told him he can lie down on his bed and have some quiet time. Problem being of course that I cannot leave the room as he screams that he is scared… So I just stood at the door, with my back turned and waited 5 min. After about 2 min he starts crying about how he doesn’t deserve anything as he has been so naughty and I should take away his poster, trophy and not let him go to tai Kwon do! Now reading this after its all settled down, I probably should have taken him up on his punishment! But he started saying how bad he is and he is a naughty bad child. I’ve never told my kids that they are bad or naughty, I’ve always phrased it that they occasionally have naughty behavior. Then he says he is bad that I should just throw him in the rubbish! Don’t worry that came from the movie cloudy uh a chance of meatballs… I was horrified the first time he said it, but then worked out where it was from, phew! So my angel, my fantastic hardly ever naughty boy just hit and hit and hit me! What is going on! My mum and dad had them recently and as hard as dad tries he hasnt got the jist of the diet yet and gave him Kettle chips, which is fine except they were lime and black pepper flavour!! Also he was given a yummy yummy ham sandwich! Sooo great! Start again! He didn’t know though and hey were wonderful to look after the kids.!
I think I failed to mention…that I am also a full time uni student!! Last semester I admitted defeat and halfway through the semester packed up my books and let myself fail. I’m really glad I did, because my kids were suffering, stressed out mum who spends know time with her kids etc. So this semester I am only going to undertake 2 units and see how I go… I mean you have all seen my house from last nights blog, as if i need anything else to take up my time! I threw myself into uni when my Da (grandfather) died from cancer a few years ago. My Da had been my dad my whole life and is the only man that never let me down. My Nana and he had lived with us for the past year and half, so we had him with us through chemo, remission etc. He was everything to me, and since I was a little girl I always thought the day my Da dies is the day I die too. But then… Kids come along dont they! So I was able to get up the day he left and carry on with this thing called life. I think it was a month after he left that I found myself enrolled in uni and studing my butt off to get the best grades I could. But slowly things have started falling apart, and each semester I find myself begging for extensions on my assignments due to another major event that has happened in my life! So it has been hard, very hard, too hard really, but this semester I am going to kick butt… Dont ask me how, but I think it may have something to do with being super organised and super strong and having to say NO, Im sorry but I cant do that for you today.
So I jumped up this morning, only had the twins. They got themselves ready and did super well. I used some of the techniques I have been reading in the book “Have a New Child by Friday”. Saying things once and walking away… Amazingly it worked! Also “you don’t get that, till you have done this”, and yep that worked too. They were super good this morning! So I’m wondering if maybe I’m not making mistakes on the diet and my kids just sometimes get annoyed at each other and need some space! Other than Jais aggressiveness of course.
So today I had enrolled in uni for the semester, cooked dinner, and cleaned my room before 10am. Yay, was so proud of myself! You guys were my inspiration really! I want to post some pics of my beautiful house instead of my clutter one. Like I said to my mate today, “Our kids don’t need all the toys, they just want to spend time with us but we are too busy cleaning all the toys and extra clutter to have time to play with them.” I can now see why people leave everything behind! For dinner I cooked chicken noodle stew from the cookbook, but didn’t look at the recipe so guessed everything that was in it, but didn’t have a whole chicken as I accidentally left it on the bench all night…. agghhhh $10 down the drain. All I had was some chicken drummies I had already cooked and some chicken breasts. Nope they were not enough, just not enough chicken flavor in it. But princess loved it and downed it. Twinies loved the garlic bread I made to go with it, so good they ate something. So frustrating when it takes me all day to cook stuff and then they refuse to eat it!
So great day today… I hope you all had one too! Chat soon xo
Ughhh Im so tired of all the crap! Tired of the arguments, the annoying whining of the word Muuuuuuuuuuuummmmm, the constant having to prove each other wrong, and just the loudness of their voices! This is one tired fed up mumma! My house is an absolute pigsty, Ive had enough of it. Im going to post a photo of the crap in my house.
The stress in my life!
I clear this every day, turn around and those bloody clutter faeries have paid another visit…
I really just want to hire a pink bin, get them to pick it up the same arvo, and chuck everything I own bar the furniture into it. Seriously can I do that?? You should see my bedroom. There are clothes all over my floor, and guess what… NONE of them even fit me!! So why are they in there!
I must be doing something wrong still on the diet, cause my big boy J is still as aggressive as ever, but in saying that he is being so sweet, and complitive (if that’s a word?) at the same time. The twins just argue and argue and get louder and louder. Munchie is being sooo loud, where it is usually JuJu. But we are conquering bedtime, so there has been improvement! I went to the GoVita again and told the naturapath JuJus behaviour at night, the full on high at bed time, and can’t calm down, the waking and screaming in the night that he wont tell me whats wrong, and the constant fidgeting during his sleep. The naturapath told me about a deficiency that can leave you unable to calm down, and have really bad sleep patterns so she told me to put him on Activated B6. She reckons I should only need to have him on it for around 4 months then hopefully never again. So he has been on it nearly a week, and I have definitely noticed a difference. No more screaming in the middle of the night, and he goes to bed without even asking for my iphone anymore. Sometimes he is asking me to stay in there for 2 min but that’s it. So fingers crossed and I pray I havent jinxed myself!
Had to cancel the nautropath who was awesome as my doc wouldnt give me referal for her for the kids, said that they have to be diagnosed with an actual chronic disease first, eg Adhd, then have 2 care people looking after them, so who else would I use other than a natraupath? Gave me a care plan for myself to go, but then I have to pay another $95 for myself. I still reckon this is wrong though, I will have to check again.
I started my behaviour diary with the kids and as long as i remember or get the chance to write in it, then it has been interesting to go through all the little details of the day. Will start posting it on here soon, and my food diary, because I really need to work out where I am stuffing up. Read all the safe foods I was given from our first dietician visit last night. Today Nan gave Munchie some raw sugar, aghhhh I read that is a big no no last night… Man, cant do much about those little slip ups but when am I going to get my 5 days straight to start a challenge??
Will let you know how I go, and will write properly again soon…. And here is something for all you lovely ladies out there, to keep you going this week. Cannot wait to see this…
Wish I could make one of these in a thermomix!!
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